As I was walking back from the bus stop this morning, instead of praying the office of readings I decided I would do the Rosary. This mornings mysteries were the Sorrowful Mysteries. I began to walk along watching the squirrels running around preparing for winter, watching the parents running to school, the workers to work, the buses to their stops. I watched as the geese flew over honking and as the leaves fell from the trees.
I began to meditate on the Carrying of the Cross. Such a long walk it must have been to carry that cross. As I began the mystery I did as always and said a prayer, one for the particular intent of my heart but in some way related to the mystery itself. Then I began to pray. As I did I began to think about the different ways we carry our crosses. But there was this notion that struck me, the cross wasn't carried in private.. it was a very public event. So public indeed that even Simon of Cyrene was compelled into helping Jesus carry the cross.
All too often we tell people who have serious sins in their lives, oh that's your cross to bear. We treat it as if those sins, performed in the dark away from us are not our concern, but something that they must learn to live with. Yet, sin is not a private affair. If you're hiding a sin from others, then it compounds the problem. When you commit those sins in private willingly, you aren't carrying your cross.. no.. you're laying it down and walking away from it.
I'm not suggesting that every person out there should come out and begin to say to every person they meet "this is my sin." I am suggesting though that we as Christians need other men (or women) to talk to. We need a support group to hold us accountable, and with that group we need to be 100% honest. We need to let someone, a trusted friend, who isn't just going to be complacent and say "that's ok," know what we are struggling with. We need to carry our cross together, and even at other times to get someone to help us bear that load, because sometimes we can't do it on our own. (I firmly believe that is the true power of the Cursillo movement, in the grouping.)
The Sacred Scriptures tell us that we are one body. Now a body could function decently without one kidney.. but it isn't working at 100%. Even more so, if it loses both one might still live, but how difficult does life become? When one organ has cancer, it often doesn't stay just there.. no it spreads. We are less without you. Period. When you are sick? Infected with sin as it were... it makes the rest of the body suffer. Together though, we can heal.